Sexting: The New Craze Sweeping the Nation that I am not Part of – Part 2

Part one of this series is located here and details the events leading to a suicide of an 18 year old who got screwed over by sexting. Today, I will be dealing with how the courts handle the issue, how parents should pay attention (sounds familiar), and how stupid teens can be. Enjoy



Okay, to start this, I want to share a quick story: in Lebanon Ohio two young teens were charged for sexting nude images of themselves. The girl sent a nude image of herself to her boyfriend and both were charged. This is the main story I will be using to prove my great and amazing points.

Anyway, these two youngins decided it was great to send pictures to each other. The court, on the other hand, thought it was not good. Good job to the court. Both got 100 hours of service, along with 30 hours of house arrest for the boy and an essay by the girl. Frankly, I think they both should have gotten the essay and house arrest punishments.

To start with, I agree that they should have been punished. The kids committed a serious offense (child porn) and so they should be nailed. I also like the essay (even though it should have been both) as it gets the girl to think about it and explain why it was wrong. Frankly, I like how the case was decided, as courts (juvenile) should work to change the kid, not punish them. They made sure the kids knew it was wrong and made them explain why.

Moving on, let's talk about how stupid teens can be. We know that teens do stupid things, and we know that they are normally not appropriate. However, we also know that they are just teens. In this case, the girl showed extremely bad judgment in taking the picture and sending it to her boyfriend. Sure, you two are in ”love”, but when you break up it is sure to circulate the Internet. As for the guy, I am understanding that it is hard to get rid of pictures of your girl, but he should have known better two. Frankly, both kids made mistakes, and I hope that both learn from them.

Now, moving on to my favorite topic in the world: how parents screw up.
in this case, it seems as though the parents were left in the dark. Normally I would argue that they were not at fault, but then you need to realize that this was done via text-message-pictures. This means that the parents have access to all records and can easily check in on their kids. Frankly, if the girl and boy were sending this sort of image, I am assuming that their verbal exchanges were even worse. Frankly, I would be checking up on my kids texts if I was paying for them, and the parents should have been doing here as well.
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Sexting: The New Craze Sweeping the Nation that I am not Part of – Part 1

As normal, this is a two part series. Today I will be talking about a suicide and the lawsuit that a sexting incident caused. One Monday I will be talking about the punishment for those UNDER 18 and what I think should be done. I will also be looking at the cause and root on Monday.
Enjoy



Spring break of last year and three young women headed to Florida to party, drink, and do the normal teen things. While there, these women took nude pictures of themselves. As with the apparent social norm, the girls then sent these images to their boyfriends. Once they broke up, and the friends had a fight, these images were quickly sent around school. Jessica Logan, one of the girls, was so embarrassed by this spreading of her spread eagle that she decided to kill herself. Now her family is suing the girls, the school, and the city/police force. Let's examine this in detail:

Here are the facts:
All girls were over 18 and consented to the images

Yep, those are the facts, and really everything that matters in this regard. The three girls were all over 18 and they all consented to this. Therefore, there is nothing that the cops could have done, so the city/police force should be dropped out of the lawsuit.

Furthermore, what is the school supposed to do? A school has responsibility only on their property (when they are public) and so whatever happens off campus, and on a persons cell phone, is not their jurisdiction. While they could have talked to those sending the image around, they had no right to confront anybody on this issue. Frankly, without a right, I believe that the school did what they should have. Therefore, the school should not be in this lawsuit and dropped.

So, there is one other group being sued here, and they are the only ones the parents might have a case against. Jessica's two friends are presumably the people who started messaging these images (we have no idea on this though) which is distribution of pornography. However, all people distributing and in the images consented and were of age, which makes it okay. These girls are total ass' and bitches, but they are perfectly in the right to send it. Frankly, these girls should also be dropped from the suit.

So, with this whole lawsuit being dismissed (if I got my way that is) then what is left with all of this? Well, I believe that Jessica herself is the one that should be blamed? She went out and took pictures of herself in a naked state and chose to have them accessible by others. Clearly she never intended this, but she took the risk and fucked up (literally). Don't worry, I am not stopping here, there will be more of this on Monday.
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Teachers, Their Students, And S-E-X!

What is it that makes teachers and students have relationships? I have never considered having a relationship, or even sexual contact with any of my teachers or professors ever (though some are quite hot). I do not understand what it is that drives these grown adults to consummate relationships with youngsters. Recently, in Marysville a teacher was suspended (and lost his license) for kissing his student. Over in Madison a teacher is being charged for having sex with his student. Seriously now, we put trust in these teachers when we give them our kids. What the hell are they thinking?

Now, the case in Marysville is interesting. The student propositioned the teacher, changed in front of him, and kissed him. While he denied the sex, he saw her naked and kissed her back. He also hugged her. Now, I understand the hugging, as it can be consolidation: when my team lost at NOSB last year, I hugged the captain, as she was crying and needed comfort. That said, there is a difference between me (20) hugging the captain (16) and the teacher (46) hugging a student (15). My point simply is, that one is somewhat understandable. As for the other teacher, what the fuck man? You have sex with a 17 year old, there is something wrong with you. Plus, how can you have sex at a mall? Clearly there is something wrong here.

This whole issue begs the question, who is at fault? Clearly, the teachers are mostly to blame, as they are the adults, and they should be acting professional. But, when the most searched porn is for teens, how can we fully blame them? The girl (at least in Marysville) propositioned the teacher, not the other way around. While he should not have done what he did (hey, at least he stopped before sex), she has some blame there.

As I usually do (and will until I have kids), I believe the blame also falls on the parents. Seriously, how can a teen believe that having sex with a person over twice her age is appropriate. When we have teens making pacts to get pregnant, there is obviously something wrong with the way their parents are raising them. Now, not all students who proposition their teachers have bad parents, some kids are just bad. But, if we have a trend going, there is obviously some problems with the raising.

So, what to do?
1) Teach your kid that sex is special, given to somebody that you love, and not just a tool to get ahead or to have fun with (no mention of marriage here)
2) Make sure that your kid knows about contraceptives, and safe sex
3) Make sure that your kids have an open forum to talk to you about anything, listen to them, and help them out
4) Explain to your kids what is a right relationship (caring, loving, tenderness, kindness, listening, etc.) and what is wrong (abuse, using, fighting (though sometimes this can be helpful), age differences)
5) Talk to your kids about this very article. Show them that it happens, and tell them why it is wrong and what to do about it

So, while I believe that the teachers are to blame 96.72%, I believe that the parents and teens share the other 3.28% of the blame. Parents, do yourselves and your kids a favor, discuss this issue with them, and do not hide from it. Seriously, if all parents would sit down, shut up, and listen to their kids this sort of issue would not happen.


As a side note, professor-student relationships are to be frowned upon, but allowed provided that they are currently not students/instructors. Same with teachers and their students once they are over 18. Read more ...